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It occured to me the other day, that a lot of us have been taught to always prepare for the worst.  Consider what this must do to our outlook on life, in general, and lately, I’ve been so obsessed with preparing for the worst, that I’ve been completely forgetting to prepare for the best, or even the mundane and inevitable.
Preparing for evenings, when I knew that I could be too tired to get things done for my son to make sure that he was prepared for his next day, was exhausting me, because it assumed, on the face of it, that I was probably going to be too tired, to do much of anything, but sit around, and it forced me to do everything ahead of time, that I could possibly think of all in the space of a few hours, while my son was at school, counting the hours until he could come home and play with me.
By the time those long school hours had gone by, I was just as exhausted as I had assumed that I probably would be, and that meant that I was too tired to be a fun Mommy, for my son.
Now I know that my job as a Mom isn’t just to be a fun playmate, but I can’t keep pushing him away, and telling him to go play with his Daddy, because I’m too tired to enjoy his company every day, so I had to find a way to end the viscious cycle of doing all the stuff that my son needed me to do, but that he really didn’t care about, so that I could actually spend some time enjoying my son’s company, because to do otherwise, would have been criminally neglectful, and would have seriously stunted my son’s emotional growth, and indeed was beginning to do so.
I gave these painful details in the hopes that the story of my recent life would serve as an example.  This is what can happen when we spend all our time preparing for the worst.  By doing this, we assume that the worst is what is going to happen, and our body responds accordingly, as if it is already reality.
Wiser folks than I have written and expounded much on this and similar topics, lately, as in the book “The Secret”. 
So what do you think would happen if we spent a little more time consciously preparing for the best, or even the mundane.  Often, the worst case scenario, isn’t half as bad as we assume that it is going to be.  How many times have you survived a “worst case scenario”?  I have survived several. 
It may seem petty, but as a mother, I figure that I survive at least one such scenario every other day.  Somehow I tend to manage to end up being with out some “vital” supply that I need in order to change my son’s diaper, at least 2-3 times a week, when we’re out somewhere, because we like to take impromptu field trips to the playground.
I’ve also survived a few car accidents.  (Before my son’s time). 
So why not feed our minds on different expectations, since we now know through scientific research that the body sees everything in the mind as the reality of the moment.  How about taking a moment to realize that there are certain things that happen every day. 
Yes, at a certain point in the day, everyone gets a little tired, but we also have our moments when we feel truely alive and energized, and wouldn’t it be great to be able to know exactly what to do with those moments, the way we know exactly what we’d do with every penny of a million dollars, if we had it……
We all say that time is money.
I’m going to leave this topic here, and hope that I’ve planted a seed of an epiphany.  Each person has to work out their own system of figuring out how they’re going to spend their valuable time, once you realize how precious time is, and that it’s too precious to waste it the way I did, planning for my son instead of making time to snuggle him at the end of his day.
I’ve touched on this before tho.  If you reread some of my previous blogs, I believe that you’ll realize the common theme, of taking charge of your life, and organizing it, so that you can bring into your life, all the elements that you really love.  Balance is key.
Good Luck, Dear Reader.
Get to work creating that balance, because you don’t simply find it, and it won’t happen on it’s own!